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Being in a bad relationship is a tough thing to do. Nothing is worse than being married and lonely at the same time. If you think the ideal way to save your relationship is to ’spice up your sex life’ you may want to think again. Here is some advice on sex to repairyour relationship.

First of all do not buy into the old cliche that if you’ve great sex your partner will be satisfied and not leave. Unless your partner is an adolescent, or just acts like one, sex alone won’t be enough to keep your relationship strong. A good adult relationship is made up of many components and until you can get it clicking on at least several levels, not just sexual, you will struggle and most likely will not be happy in the relationship.

A word of caution though, no one is perfect and no relationship is perfect. You will have times when you and your partner are not on the same page, and that is ok. It’s more about balance, in your relationship as a whole you should be on the same page more often than not. If it’s balanced the other way, where you are at odds more often than you are in sync you should seriouslyThink about ending the relationship because the two of you just aren’t a good fit, and that is unlikely to change.

So before you decide that hotter sex is the key to making your relationship what you really want it to be, Considersome of these points:

1. How was your relationship in the beginning? Did you’ve a lot of hobbies that you shared together? What did you do, besides sex, when you spent time together? If you do not do those things together anymore, why not? If youexamine these changes in your relationship you’ll be a lot closer to figuring out what you need to work on to make your relationship strong again.

2. Have you asked your partner what they think is going on with your relationship? After all you’re both part of the situation, and the problem. Why not share with each other what you are feeling, instead of complaining to your girlfriends, or buddies, why not ask your partner? No one will know what they’re thinking betterthan they do.

Make sure that when you ask your partner what they are thinking you give them thechance to tell you how they feel in a ’safe’ environment. What I mean by that is don’t get mad and yell at them if they state something you do not want to hear. If you do then you’re sending them a signal that they can’t open up to you or it will get ugly, so they won’t turn to you. That is the beginning of the end for many relationships.

Once they’ve told you how they feel, it’s your turn. And the same rules apply. You have the right to express your feelings without being persecuted by your partner.

If you and your partner have reached a rough patch in your relationship it can be tempting to think that if you can reignite a fire in bed you’ll be able to save your relationship, unfortunately that is simply not the case. Use the advice on sexto mend your relationship tips I’ve given you above tobegin to rebuild your relationship in a healthy way.

Is your marriage in crisis? Would you know it if it was? Do you recognize the warning signs? A marriage in crisis can sometimes disguise itself as a normal but slightly boring marriage until its too late to change it and save it.

You have to pay attention to all the signs of health in your marriage to make sure your partnership is going strong. First, look at how often you’ve sex. While sex isnt the whole point of the marriageits much more important than just thatits a crucial part of a healthy marriage.

A marriage in crisis is usually pretty easy to spot by looking at your sex lives. Do you’ve sex infrequently? Is it a big, scheduled deal when you do have sex? Have you stopped having sex spontaneously just when you feel like it?

When sex becomes a scheduled activity, a marriage can certainly recover. In fact, most marriages go through a phase very much like that when a baby is born. Each child makes it more and more difficult to find the time to spend with our partner over a meal or before leaving for work, let alone finding a spare hour to make love.

But a marriage in crisis never breaks out of that pattern. Instead, even when the time is there the partners dont have spontaneous sex. Usually theres veryTiny physical affection shown during the day either. People in love and happy to be together tend to hug and kiss different times through the day.

A loving couple will often touch each other just in passing. One will give the other a fast kiss on the cheek or forehead for no reason. Does this still happen in your marriage? Do you ever sneak a quick pinch or pat on the bottom or a sexy look in the middle of the day?

When these things startto disappear, it can be a sign that the marriage is in trouble. The other thing that goes in a very obvious wayis usual courtesy. When you state thank you, excuse me, and please, throughout your day to strangers more than you state them to your partner, somethings wrong.

We take our partners for granted in this way, and eventually this leads to a sort of coldness between people. There is simply no reason not to be affectionate and thank our partners (and state please) during the course of each day life.

The good news is that if youre seeing these warning signs, you can startworking right now to correct them. And you dont have to make a fanfare about it or announce the change. Simply change what you do.

Make a point of giving affection and unexpected kisses. Be very polite again, and state please and thank you, even when its just the two of you. Make time for making love. Do these things and your marriage in crisis could soon be back on track and you could be happier than ever.

If youve ever had your love break up you know how painful it is. And if you thought back after the relationship ended, you probably saw all the signs that you didnt recognize before. If youll remember those signs and keep them in mind, they can help you prevent a break up in the future. And they can also help you get back together after a split.

One sure sign of impending love break up is the lack of physical contact. This doesnt just mean sex. If your partner suddenly stops having an interest in sex, thats a good sign that a break up is coming. But the normal flow and rhythm of a relationship has times when theres lots of sex and times when theres not much. This is natural.

A love break up is probably on the horizon though, if your partner stops holding your hand for no apparent reason. Or he or she stops putting an arm over your shoulder at the movies or in public when he or she always did it before. Any sudden changes like not touching you much outside the bedroom when your partner was always very affectionate before could signal problems.

If it goes beyond not touching to the person actually becoming uncomfortable at your touch, then you definitely need to have a conversation with your partner about whats going on. Dont just assume that because your partner flinched away from your touch that theres about to be a love break up, though. Many things can cause a person to not want to be touched at any given moment.

A person might have been thinking of something else and been surprised or startled by the touch. He or she might think that your touch signals that its time to have sex, if youre not very affectionate except when you want to be intimate. And maybe your partner isnt in the mood for sex now and chose to show you that by moving away from your touch. That doesnt mean youre headed for a love break up.

Your partner might simply not feel good. Every change in a persons behavior doesnt signal an impending love break up or even anything wrong with the relationship. You have to watch them closely for a while to determine if some behavior is an occasional thing, something brought on only during certain times, or if its a permanent part of the persons make up.

Catching your partner in lies, even what seem like small and harmless ones, could be a sign of problems, too. After all, if a lie is small and harmless, why tell it in the first place? Where theres one little lie, Largerand more damaging lies can grow. Dont become convinced its a love break up right away though. People lie about many things that arent bad, like surprise celebrations and reunions. Your partner might be trying to keep a harmless and fun secret like that, instead of scheming about a love break up.