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How Do I Get Back Together With My Ex Girlfriend

This is the question my husbands brother asked me the other day. Why did you break up was my response when really what I wanted to ask was how could you be such a donut to dump her?

He looked a bit sheepish and told me that he had met this girl at work and she smiled at him. Seemingly she’s young, very pretty and looks rather like she belongs in Baywatch. So he, being a he-man type, decided that he had to dump his lovely girlfriend to date this beach babe. Needless to say, he soon found out that she had been smiling at his mate and looked on him like he was something on her shoe.

Well he deserved that but I believe he’d ditched his girlfriend for a less obvious reason. He cares about her and was scared of making a commitment to her. He had started thinking about settling down and having children and nobody had made him feel this way before. But he was worried that being a career girl, this was not the future she had planned.

Unfortunately he’s not very good at expressing his feelings so decided that it was better to finish the relationship rather than try to find out if his partner shared his vision of the future. Doh!

Honestly, how can someone so intelligent on a professional level be so emotionally backward. Anyhow his ex partner is a lovely lady who, God love her,Cares abouthim so I knew that getting back with his ex girlfriend was possible. It was also a great idea as despite his obvious faults, they make a great couple and he does love her.

So I told him to write her a letter. He decided an email would do but I insisted it had to be a letter. A hand written letter is such an old fashioned way of courting someone that it almost always guarantees a positive response. So off he went to buy some paper and a pen and as I thought complete the task at hand.

And then he was back. But what do I write? He asked. Seriously he would have let me write the whole thing for him. So I told him to tell her how he felt. An MBA from Harvard and he’s looking at me like I advised him to pull out his finger nails. I said Tell her you love her and that you are very sorry for the way you behaved and that you would like to take her out this Friday to her favourite restaurant.

Believe me that this approach works much betterthan a text, a bunch of roses and a takeaway. Thankfully his partner knows him well and saw the funny side, and my brother in law is no longer asking “how to get back together with my ex-girlfriend”.

His new question is what to state to his future father in law when he pops the question but I will leave my hubby to deal with that one!

Men often wonder if they are speaking the same language as women because they can land in hot water very quickly. They look for relationship advice for men in order to avoid these situations but most relationship advice is written by women for other women.

There are some basic rules that men need to comprehend in order to increase their success rate with women.

The first one is you need to worry when your woman gives you the silent treatment. Most men go silent because they have nothing left to state but when a woman goes silent, it is generally a bit hint that you’ve upset her. Whilst you may think that silence is golden, women use not speaking as a punishment. So if your lady friend has a silent day, think back over your actions and try to determine what you have done to upset her.

Secondly, PMT isn’t always the reason for a woman being in a bad mood. Sometimes they are upset and injured over something and it has nothing to do with when their period is due. If you constantly blame PMT, you will probably find yourself searching the lonely hearts columns in the near future.

Women like to talk about their problems but this doesn’t mean that they want youto repair everything. Most females are quite capable of looking after themselves and they just want to let off steam. God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason. Just in case, it was so you could listen to what your partner is saying before you jump in with the solution. Do yourself a favor and believe that silence in this instance goes a long way.

When looking for relationship advice for men, they often look in the wrong places. It is not ideal to ask your partners father what her problem is. Firstly he is unlikely to comprehend her any more than you do but being the apple of his eye, he will wonder what you’ve done to upset her.

It helps to remember that your female partner and an elephant have something in common – their memory. Your partner will never forget anything so do not be surprised if she has a list a mile long of all the things you did wrong in the last six months.

Try talking to your partner. Tell her often how much you love and appreciate her and cuddle her without always expecting it to lead to sex. Like people of both sexes, women like to be held and appreciated without feeling they have to give you something in return.

Also if you’re worried about somethingTalk to your partner. Whilst she may be female, she’s not helpless and two heads are oftensuperior than one at solving a problem. In addition, if she knows what is bothering you she is lessapt to become emotionally distant having decided that you must be having an affair or are planning to leave her.

Life long partnerships take work on both sides but be careful what sources you use as relationship advice for men.